“Letting Go in Order to Gain Control”
Repetition will instill muscle (brain) memory in order to focus on 1-3 swing thoughts while competing on the golf course and in a stadium filled with 78,000 fans.. I’ve always been in search of the “perfect move” (swing) in punting, golf and ultimately - life . Even though ‘it’ took 45 years to manifest, ‘letting go‘ has given me the gift of ‘control’ on the course…. the practice tee/green………. and life.
There is a very fine line between success and failure when we finally ‘let go with a purpose'. Especially in the game of golf->just as in the game of life (punting).
Being able to “trust the process”, clear your mind and allow your swing(life) unfold naturally is definitely something to strive for. However, the next step is to “put it all together” and consistantly execute. Working on ingraining swing movements into my subconscious mind has put me in a position to “take my relationship” (mind, body, spirit) to the next level.
We all need to free our minds from the limitations that accompany a “results driven mindset”. Thoughts..whispers of “I’ve never shot 65”, “I hope I don’t pull this putt”, “Wouldn’t it be stupid to snap hook this drive?”....... All the way to “How will this win change my life?” on the PGA Tour. Tiger has proven time and again that he has been blessed/taught/learned to focus at a level never known in the history of golf. This is life. The art of ‘ Focus’………..think 'The Eye of the Tiger'.
I’ve been blessed to experience ‘it’(the zone) in small but poignant doses. Though I had much ‘success’(statistically) with my punting, my new goal is to implement this freedom into my golf game. I can vividly remember throwing the football (back to my center/coach) while in my crouch position when I used to hold for FG’s in the NFL………my hips were preset(turn) and awkward(correct) position forced me to turn my shoulders and throw the ball with body……….it was magical. My never ending quest…my unquiet mind…..the constant grind. Hilarious, but so frustrating. I knew it was ‘in there”, but I squeezed when I should have “Let Go”….physically, spiritually and mentally. This ‘squeezing of life' served to hold me back in all of my endeavors whether it be on or off the field.
Then came 2003, when I found it!(whole other story) Too little, too late for my NFL punting career, but I share it and coach it. (Google ‘Donnie Jones – punter St Louis Rams”) and you’ll see what I mean. We have to be prepared for this 'shift’…..When we finally realize “we are ok” (on the right track), we (the human mind) can do anything…for real!!” Quantum Thinking prevents us from letting fear (guilt/failure) creep in and plant its evil seed. Know this, people! - We can compete at ‘levels unknown’. We have to constantly remind ourselves that‘doubt’ is the number ONE(1) hurdle that separates the boys from the men. We must strive to free our minds of negative thoughts, destructive loops of “scenarios”, “what if’s”, and “what will the friends family fans say (think)”…………Yes, we need to let go(mental chatter0 and allow life to happen; but always remember we can direct it(guide it) when we relax and respect the process.(fyi - next level of consciousness, folks).
After proper mental and physical preparation, we must(can) always “trust the process” (i.e. I hit a 65 yd punt in 1998 while locked in the “chains of a panic attack”). I simply let my instincts takes over. All the work, repetition and drills paid off....And I didn't even know I had a choice. ...What a 'Seinfeld moment'....When all I had to do my whole career was understand (and believe) we are in control of all of our actions….catch to kick….address to finish…sunrise to sunset. And that’s it, folks ……….
So the moral to the story is: 1) Focus 2) Execute (allow) and 3) Enjoy (let it happen) the ride! .....The Mystery............... GM
Due to my current alliances with Everyminute.org (Michael Corbin), North Venture Partners (Alex Bernstein) and BringChange2Mind.org (Dr Cinda Johnson) and Alicia Sparks, my 'last minute' trip to Miami on the eve of the 2010 Super Bowl proved to be not only successful, but even more - enlightening. My most quality time was spent with my old friends Paul Pomfret (PDP Capital), Wendy Herr and Andy Bernstein (Mass Hysterics.com). These people 'get it' and are excited to work with everyminute.org. The sky is the limit and my team is evolving ..... very nicely. ; )
As you all know, my 'quantum shift' has taken place much to the surprise of many of my former NFL co-workers and members of the media. After reviewing my credentials and press release for everyminute.org, the responses I received from the media, for the most part, were mixed. Woven in among the 'congratulations on your efforts', 'you look like a rock star' and 'you're an inspiration'; were the looks, vibes and whisperings of 'we really don't want to address, suicide depression and the effects concussions on athletes'.
My old friends from Baltimore were great. 'Nasty Nester', Scott Garceau and Wally Williams embraced my cause(s). But 'between us girls'....... The topics of bipolar disorder, suicide and depression were only delicately sprinkled into questions of 'let's talk about the good old daze' and 'who's going to win the big game'. I had no problem 'switching channels' and 'playing the game'. The media is there to entertain. This is their job...and I respect this. But after all was said and done, talking about depression and suicide probably wasn't a number one topic in the eyes of each program director.
Returning to the scene of the crime (the NFL), was a grave reminder of how football is big business. I felt badly for all the 'kids' with their 'bling', overinflated egos and (de)illusion of being on top of the world. I understand the feeling. Been there. Done that. It only enhanced how important my quest to educate and prevent depression will be. Stay strong and stay tuned. GM