TIPS FOR HEALING
The following tips for seeking forgiveness and making amends come from Daniel L. Buccino, a licensed clinical social worker and clinical supervisor at the Adult Outpatient Community Psychiatry Program at Johns Hopkins Bayview Medical Center and assistant professor at Johns Hopkins University.
- Bipolar disorder is what you have, not who you are. You still must live with it, stand up to it, accommodate yourself to it, resist it, accept it, manage it. Separating yourself from the problem in this way will allow your true character to help you decide how you want to live with your illness and its consequences. Stability begets stability.
- Apologize—genuinely, sincerely, deeply, specifically, and directly.
- Make reparations as best you can.
- Try to accept responsibility.
- Redouble your efforts to do the right and virtuous things to show that whatever behaviors you exhibited were the exception, not the rule.
- Remain humble and well-connected to treatment and find the best treatment providers you can.
- Everyone makes mistakes, but avoid repeatedly making the same mistakes.
- Strive to demonstrate good character by being responsible, reliable, trustworthy, competent, and focused.
- Recognize that rebuilding trust is a process, a staircase to climb at times, not an event.
Posted by Gregory Montgomery, Jr.